Although dating can be an enjoyable activity in its own right, offering opportunities to experience nice restaurants, concerts, and cultural venues, the end goal for most people involves finding the right one to settle down with. Those seeking relationship advice often ask how they can know if a person they’re seeing is actual relationship material or if they’re only in it for a temporary good time or otherwise not a good choice for a long term relationship. The following tips and guides below will offer you some insight as to whether they’re in it for the long haul or not.
How Do They Treat Service People When You’re Out On A Date?
If you’re out on a date with someone who treats restaurant workers or others in the service industry badly, listen up — that’s exactly how that person is going to treat you, your friends and family, and any children you may have after the newness of your relationship has worn off. Those who are rude to service industry people are usually using the behavior as a cover for deep insecurities, so take this as a serious warning sign that the person isn’t good relationship material. Furthermore, these type of people aren’t even good casual dating material unless you enjoy being constantly embarrassed due to your date’s boorish behavior.
Are They Always Broke and Seem to Have No Serious Ambition?
This type of person isn’t going to change, and unless you want to hook your fortunes to that of a deadbeat, steer clear if you run across this type on one of the free dating sites. Naturally, you don’t want to be the sort of person who considers money the most attractive quality that a potential mate to have, but this is about being a responsible adult with life goals and not just money. Also, a consistent lack of money could signal serious issues such as an addiction to drugs, alcohol, or gambling.
Do They Display Signs of Obvious Anger Issues?
If the person you’re dating seems angry a lot, that’s a sign that you should rethink pursuing a serious future with this person. Living with someone who is constantly angry can erode your sense of serenity and well-being, and in some cases, the anger may signal that the person may become physically violent at some point in the future. You probably don’t want a mate who is completely passive at all times and never feels passionately about anything, but don’t mistake inappropriate, constant anger for passion.
Other signs that someone isn’t relationship material include never having enough time for you, making subtle digs at you and trying to pass them off as jokes, and a refusal to respect your opinions and needs. Also, the best piece of relationship advice ever given is that if someone says they don’t want a relationship, listen to them –they’re telling the truth, so don’t try to change them.