First dates are intimidating, we know. It’s hard to prepare for something that could potentially go 100 different ways depending your date’s personality, and depending on the kind of date activity you choose. Ether way, it’s important to remember that you’re simply getting to knew another human being; you’re not committing to anything, and you’re under no obligation to like this person (although it would be nice if you did find love). Here are the 5 best questions to ask on a first date to help you break the ice, and create a relaxing vibe where you can easily connect.
This question might catch your date off guard, but it’s a good way to let them know that you have some humor in you, and that you can both find some common ground on your previous not-so-great date experiences.
2. Whose the biggest influence in your life?
You can learn a lot about someone based on who his or her role mode is This question could lead to life stories and life lessons that let you see a more personal, even vulnerable side of your date. Pus, people love to talk about themselves and what inspires them, so this question could spark plenty of conversation!
3. What’s your ideal way to spend a Saturday night?
This question is for you just as much as it’s for your date. If your date likes to sit inside and play video games for 4 hours straight on a weeknight, but you’re the kind of person who would camp overnight on top of a mountain after spending the day hiking the Appalachian Trail, then you might have some conflict.
4. If you could drop everything right now without any consequences, what would you do?
This is a fun hypothetical question, because it gets you and your date to think outside the box You can talk about your hopes and dreams and be creative with imagining where life might take you.
5. Have you figured out what your calling in life is? If not, what gives you energy and purpose at the moment?
This is a heavy question, but an important one. Everyone is searching for his or her purpose in life. While many people find their “thing”, others struggle to define their identity and spend years trying different career paths living in different cities, and changing their friend groups to see where they fit in. I t’s different for everyone, and it’s a great philosophical topic you could potentially talk about for your entire date.
In conclusion, the aforementioned set of questions range from light topics to heavier more in depth topics. It’s important to ask these questions in proper context. For example, if you’re on a fun bowling night date, you may not want to bring heavy philosophical topics into the light fun environment. It could be a real downer to the over vibe of the night. The best thing you can do for your first date is to have fun and relax; and pretty soon that first date will no longer be a first date.